Mizzentop Day School is a private school in Pawling that seeks to imbibe Living Values in all we do. This means we not only teach them explicitly to our students, but we also have our faculty, staff, and administration demonstrate these values on
However, in order to effectively teach children these values, we also need parents to be on the same page.
In today’s post, we are going to talk a little bit about the Living Value of honesty and how to model it in the home. Honesty is a value that has to be taught and lived in order for it to really stick. It comes naturally to lie when we are in trouble or when we’re trying to get our way.
When parents model honesty for their children, it can help reinforce the lessons they learn in the classroom and make them more solid and tangible.
Model Honesty Even When It’s Difficult
When it comes to lying, we often do so in order to protect ourselves, our reputation, or even other people.
Parents can model honesty to their children by being frank with them and others when they mess up. It can sting our pride to admit we’ve messed up, but this is the most important time to teach children to be honest about, and own up to their mistakes.
When parents do something wrong, especially to a member of our family, it’s important to show children proactivity in being honest. Not waiting to be confronted about a situation goes a long way in showing that honesty isn’t just about admitting things when you’ve gotten caught, it’s about a lifestyle of being frank and transparent with one another.
When parents model this sort of honestly with their children, it can help tear down barriers their child might naturally put it. It can encourage them to come to go to their parents when things go wrong, rather than try to hide it and hope it never comes to light.
Honesty bridges these gaps and helps families form closer bonds. From there, children can take the principle of honesty into all their relationships.
Teaching Children to Mingle Tact and Sensitivity With Honesty
Another aspect of honesty is learning to be honest about other people. This can be a particularly difficult thing to do because it also needs to be taught alongside tact.
Being honest with someone does not simply mean throwing their faults in their face, acting like a jerk, in the name of “truth.” Being honest with others has to be with a desire to better them, better ourselves, and create a more meaningful relationship.
For example, it may be necessary for your child to confront another student if they’ve been hurt by their actions or they haven’t been pulling their weight on a group project.
When you teach your child about honesty, make sure they understand they also need to respect the feelings of others. Model this behavior in the home, and it can help them carry it out in other areas of life.
If you’d like to learn more about Living Values, or about the curriculum we offer to our students, schedule a visit at our school. We’ll be happy to give you a tour and explain how we can benefit your children.